Going through “From Love to Loss” a divorce is a difficult experience, and going through it twice before the age of 35 can feel particularly isolating. But according to a study by the Pew Research Center, roughly one-third (33%) of women in the United States will experience divorce by the time they reach their 50s. While the statistic might not be comforting on its own, it does show that experiencing multiple divorces is more common than many women realize.
However, for women in the Philippines, the situation is different. Due to the country being one of the few, alongside the Vatican, that doesn’t allow divorce, the statistic we mentioned above wouldn’t directly apply.
This doesn’t mean there aren’t challenges for women in similar situations. The Philippines has a process for annulment, which essentially declares a marriage null and void. This can be a lengthy and expensive option, but it serves as the closest alternative to divorce. According to a report by the Philippine Statistics Authority (PSA), over 400,000 individuals separated, annulled, or divorced their marriages between 2 thousand 15 and 2 thousand 20 [2015 and 2020].
The lack of straightforward divorce also leads to a rise in live-in partnerships. With annulment being a complex process, some couples choose cohabitation as an alternative. A PSA census showed a significant increase in these arrangements, which are recognized as common-law marriages but come with fewer rights compared to licensed marriages.
For women who find themselves having ended multiple relationships, regardless of the legal term used, it’s natural to wonder what went wrong. There isn’t a single answer, of course, but by looking at common themes in failed marriages, women can gain valuable insights and approach future relationships with a stronger foundation.
From Love to Loss!
Here’s the 5 multiple reasons of women divorces nefore 35
- Rushing into Marriage
Sometimes, the desire for commitment or societal pressures can lead women to marry before they’ve fully explored who they are and what they want in a partner. This lack of self-awareness can make it difficult to choose a compatible spouse in the long run. - Ignoring Incompatibility
Early infatuation can mask underlying incompatibilities. Important factors like differing values, communication styles, or financial goals can create friction that builds over time. - Unrealistic Expectations
Fairytales and societal narratives can paint an unrealistic picture of marriage. When reality doesn’t match these expectations, disappointment can lead to marital problems. - Poor Communication Skills
Open and honest communication is essential for any relationship, but especially in marriage. Without it, misunderstandings fester, and resentment grows. - Unresolved Personal Issues
Past traumas or emotional baggage can negatively impact a marriage. It’s important for women to address these issues before committing to a partner.
What can women who’ve experienced multiple divorces do to move forward?
- Take Time for Self-Reflection
Divorce is an opportunity for growth. By reflecting on the past marriages, women can identify patterns and areas for improvement. - Seek Support
Talking to a therapist or counselor can be incredibly helpful in processing emotions and developing healthy coping mechanisms. - Focus on Personal Growth
This is a time to rediscover oneself and make choices that prioritize personal well-being and happiness. - Define Dealbreakers
Taking time to understand what’s truly important in a partner will help make wiser choices in future relationships. - Date with Intention
Don’t settle for less than what you deserve. Look for someone who shares your values and life goals.
Divorce can be a painful experience, but it doesn’t have to define your future. By learning from past mistakes and prioritizing self-discovery, women who’ve experienced multiple divorces can build stronger, healthier relationships in the future.
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